Street children and ceremonies In our society, we find children who, in one way or another, lead life outside the family or in families which cannot support them for one reason or another. These are normally marginalized, not touched squarely by the mainstream national budget. These are grouped as street or vulnerable children. The extreme part of this scenario is the case of orphans; be it artificial or natural. The natural orphans are the under eighteen who have lost both parents and have virtually no ways of supporting themselves thus depending on the support from other relatives, the government, religious organizations or charities. This number is swelling very fast with the coming of the HIV/AIDS pandemic. Artificial orphans are mainly children who were born without planning and whose parents are unwilling to support their livelihood and other social services. These might result from prostitution, rape or the law of the land. The country law requires that any student found pregnant is dismissed from school and the one who induced it jailed for a generation. Under these circumstances, many males reject to have induced pregnancy and even run away; leaving the child under the care of grandparents who did not plan and thus making some reject the responsibility. Coupled with the fact that the mother too was unprepared, we find the child without the normal parental care as the mother will be forced to look for other alternatives in taking care of her own life mainly through prostitution and/or petty business; thus leaving the child as an orphan. Regardless of the reasons for the orphanness of the child, these children miss the basic services like education, health, livelihood support; leave alone parental love. As we know, the fundamental need of a child is education. Once given education, the child will find his/her own way of survival. The education sector has been hit most severely by this phenomenon. Many students are enrolled by their parents and go on schooling. At some point, their parents are unable to support them and they have to stop schooling. We have reports even from government schools which virtually provide free education whereby students drop out and go to street in search of basic human needs like food and shelter during class hours. Under these circumstances, we cannot expect these children to perform well academically. These are now the ones that later transform themselves into bandits and prostitute after observing that they cannot lead normal life like their counterparts who are in schools. On the other side of the coin, every weekend, almost Dar es salaam and other big city streets, churches, mosques and beaches are full of people with white robes and black suits. Guess what? Weddings; a rite of passage made to every new couple after marital vows and signing of marriage certificates. These ceremonies are normally preceded by a series of preparatory meetings attended mainly by close relatives, work mates and other folks. The main objectives of these meetings are to contribute in kind and cash for the success of the ceremonies. Huge sums of money are collected and spent during their officiating. In most cases the direct expenses (hall hire, meals, attire, decors, motorcade, still/mobile pictures, invitation cards, master of ceremony with public address system & live remote show Audio Visual facilities etc) range from ten dollars to tens of thousand dollars per hour depending on the collections by the preparation committees. This does not include indirect costs like "uchakavu" and personal preparations of the ones attending the ceremonies. In most cases, there are a total of five main ceremonies; two of which are for the maternal side, two involving both sides and one involving the new couples but financed by the paternal side. The ceremonies involving the maternal side are kitchen and send off party. The ones involving both sides are the wedding and reception parties. The one involving the new couple is the honey moon normally made in carefully selected cool lodgings. Apart from the mentioned main ceremonies, in some cultures, we even find silver (25 years), golden (50 years) and diamond (60 years) jubilee weddings to long serving couples. These ceremonies are highly celebrated in all cultures throughout the world. It is hard to imagine as to when they started but the fact remains the same; these ceremonies are the ones that set the first step towards the longest and most intimate relationship from which all responsible human population come from: the family. It is no wonder that any person choosing this kind of institution is congratulated in all types of styles. Long live weddings. Long live the family institution. Yes. Both poverty and ceremonial life take place on the ground of the same planet Earth under the same Sun. …and yes; the same sun melting wax while hardening clay!!!. … One groaning in poverty every coming thunder and drought and the other celebrating every coming sun and rain. The same Earth. Even the same immediate source of scientifically accepted source of life: man and woman. The only thing keeping them apart being the metal that made Judas betray Jesus: the coin. The interaction of the above factors has made the number of children without parental care swell every coming day and night. This is uncalled for and something urgent has to be done by the same community that is feeling the pinch of this shortcoming. Given these stories, we normally rush in pressing the government increase the budget for social welfare, call for religious organizations, charities and development partners to donate more in favor of these members of the public. To my opinion, the institutions mentioned above have done to their level best and our role is to congratulate for encouraging them. Is it possible for the two to meet and be sympathetic to one another? Yes. Possible. How? Wait a minute. In Kenya, we have the well established "HARAMBEE" whereby the community members contribute for meeting some social obligations like education. It is no wonder we find the education level in Kenya higher than in Tanzania despite the fact that cost sharing in Kenya started a long time ago. In Tanzania we still have the socialism hangovers whereby the government takes care of all social services except wedding and burial ceremonies. We have to wake up now and change because the government has silently returned this responsibility to the society. So the society has to learn on how to take care of its own self. One entry point are these wedding ceremonies. Burial ceremonies are mainly not planned and it is quite unbecoming going there to run a harambee while people are bitter with losing a loved one. So the only remaining possibility are these expensive marital related ceremonies. One way to make them contribute is to go through their marriage registrars (i.e. the district commissioners and religious leaders) and carry out a workshop to sensitize them on making all those entering the marriage institution contribute to the social responsibility fund (SOREFU). Under this arrangement, all those registering marriages will be requested to voluntarily contribute some money to SOREFU. This amount will be deposited in a special account and used for taking care of children who are marginalized as mentioned in the foregoing paragraphs. Once this fund is established, there will be a committee to monitor the revenue and expenditure so that the money collected is spent for the intended purpose. Since the objective of this fund touches almost every family in Tanzania, it is expected that it will be the most sustainable and many will be convinced to contribute towards its success. I am not trying to say that this will be a panacea to the street children challenge. My point is that, coupled with other available means of combating mentioned earlier, it will significantly be minimizing the number of children who miss education due to the failure of their families to sponsor them. Mr. Benjamin Maduhu Nkonya is the Chief Executive Officer of the Goldenrule Global Evangelists (GGE) that runs the SOREFU. Besides, he is a free lance consultant on education management, a school owner, Secretary General to the Tanzania Association of Managers and Owners of Non-Government Schools and Colleges (TAMONGSCO). He is reachable through 0715/54/84-316570 or tamongsco@yahoo.com
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With best regards from  Benjamin NM Nkonya
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Date: Wednesday, October 31, 2012, 11:20 AM
Daktari Wineaster, umetoa uchambuzi mzuri sana. Nadhani hoja ya msingi
ilikuwa ni kuepuka gharama kubwa za harusi ambazo hutegemea michango ya
watu wengine. Suala siyo kupinga kufanyika kwa harusi ambazo ni kweli kwa
kiasi fulani huchangia ajira nyingi na kukua kwa uchumi binafsi na wa
taifa pia. Tatizo siku hizi umezuka mtindo kwa mfano mtu anakuja na bajeti
ya harusi ya million 20 mkimuuliza wewe au familia mmejiandaa sh. ngapi
utasikia milion 2 au 3. Ushauri katika mjadala huu ungelenga kukumbushana
kuwa mtu apange bajeti ya harusi ambayo ipo ndani ya uwezo wake binafsi
ama familia husika. Na si kupanga gharama kubwa kwa nia ya kuwabebesha
wengine mzigo huo.Kwani maana ya harusi ni nini hasa? Je ni kuonyesha
ufahari wa kipesa? je ni kushindana jinsi ya kutumia pesa? Nadhani maana
halisi ni kupata mwenzi wa maisha. Haina maana kutumia vibaya pesa nyingi
kwa tukio la masaa machache
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