there is for me no problem at all. you are not married yet and the
stay together is forced by circumstace, otherwise you would still be
apart. sharing a story like that is not easy and the girl
who,apparantly loves you is worried that if you know that so early
you may break so she was buying time.
if she kept it hiden untill you wed, then it would even render the
marriage nullified. accet the girls past and move forwar, unless
there is another problem, not this one
On 9/29/13, Maurice Oduor <mauricejoduor@gmail.com> wrote:
> Why do some women see the need to hide their existing child/children from
> the new man in their lives? I find this strange. Are the men the ones who
> get turned off by women who already have children? They shouldn't be.
>
> If you love a woman, you accept her as a package with all the kids she
> already has. You can never tell the kind of marriage/relationship she had
> to walk out of. Maybe she was with a wife-beater and she had to walk away
> to save herself and the kids. Maybe she was with a leech who contributed
> nothing in the house. Or maybe she just genuinely fell out of love with her
> ex because of various reasons.
>
> Read this story and tell me your opinion about this. My opinion is that the
> guy should be very wary of this girlfriend of his. She's a liar.
>
> But I'll ask our men to be open-minded about accepting women with existing
> kids. You're the ones making them lie about this.
>
> http://www.kenyan-post.com/2013/09/shocker-man-arrested-for-being.html
>
> My fiancée hasn't told me about her child Updated Saturday, September 28th
> 2013 at 14:59 GMT +3
>
> We have been dating for one and a half years now and are planning to get
> married soon. My
> fiancée<http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=fianc%C3%A9e&searchbutton=SEARCH>has
> an elder
> step-sister<http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=step-sister&searchbutton=SEARCH>who
> she doesn't get along with. The sister also, at some point, wanted me
> to be her boyfriend behind my
> fiancée<http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=fianc%C3%A9e&searchbutton=SEARCH>'s
> back. She also doesn't give my
> fiancée<http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=fianc%C3%A9e&searchbutton=SEARCH>any
> support forcing her to depend on the small cash she gets from her mum.
> Three months ago, the
> step-sister<http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=step-sister&searchbutton=SEARCH>sent
> her away from her home and I was forced to take her in. We now live
> together and I take care of all her expenses including paying her college
> fees. I recently discovered that she has a three-year-old daughter who
> lives with her real sister whom she has never proposed we meet and doesn't
> like talking about. I haven't told her I know about the kid, yet but I am
> confused and really don't know what to do about this. Please help...
> *{Mark}
> *
>
>
>
> *Your take*
>
> The sad reality is that you are in
> love<http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=love&searchbutton=SEARCH>with
> a liar and chances are that she doesn't
> love
> <http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=love&searchbutton=SEARCH>you
> for who you are, but what you have. If she
> love <http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=love&searchbutton=SEARCH>s
> you, she would have disclosed about her baby the same way she confided in
> you when things were wrong with her
> step-sister<http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=step-sister&searchbutton=SEARCH>.
> Hiding some info about her and disclosing some, means she is not
> faithful<http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=faithful&searchbutton=SEARCH>.
> She is not worth your trust, but you are the only one to decide
> regarding
> your future. Marry her and live with all the insecurities, or leave her and
> set your soul free.
>
> *(0nyango 0utha )*
>
> Your
> fiancée<http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=fianc%C3%A9e&searchbutton=SEARCH>'s
> baby should not be an excuse for you to marry her if you
> love<http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=love&searchbutton=SEARCH>her
> and want to live with her for the rest of your life. She could be
> worried of losing you if she discloses about her child. Now that you know,
> just approach her and let her know she should always be sincere, since you
> love
> <http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=love&searchbutton=SEARCH>her.
>
> * (Ouma Ragumo)*
>
> Maybe you never asked your
> fiancée<http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=fianc%C3%A9e&searchbutton=SEARCH>about
> her past and whether she has a child. It is hard sometimes to break
> such news, especially when a man seems disinterested in digging about
> someone's past. If you truly
> love<http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=love&searchbutton=SEARCH>her,
> don't let this kill your dream.
>
> *(Wilberforce Atsiaya)*
>
> Looks like the lady is not honest. The best way to go about it is to sit
> her down and discuss the issue. If she accepts her mistake, forgive her
> and move on with your plans.
>
> *(Tasma Charles)*
>
> From the story, that lady is already your wife, since you guys live
> together. A child is a blessing; please don't let this ruin what you have.
>
> *(Ben Shikuku)*
>
> Counsellor's takeFrom what I understand, the main problem here is the
> daughter that she has allegedly kept a secret all this time. It would add
> lots of value if you found out why she has been hiding this all this time.
> If possible make this a friendly and candid discussion — not a fight — so
> that you get to understand her perspective. If it is indeed true, take time
> to reflect on if you would be willing to accommodate her and her daughter.
> There is absolutely nothing wrong with dating and marrying a lady who
> already has a child, but you need to
> love<http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=love&searchbutton=SEARCH>her
> enough to withstand the resistance that may come for the initial years
> from your family members. If you
> love<http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=love&searchbutton=SEARCH>this
> lady, do not write her off simply because of the child. Every child
> needs a daddy, and if her reasons for keeping this from you are genuine,
> you have a chance to make a difference in that little girl's life. As you
> think through this, put yourself in that child's shoe. Wouldn't it mean the
> world
> <http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=world&searchbutton=SEARCH>for
> you to have a daddy figure around you? And how would you feel if your
> mother was rejected by a man who she
> love<http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/?searchtext=love&searchbutton=SEARCH>s
> just because of you? Take time and meet the little girl as well....
>
> *{Taurus}*
>
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